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Can a conversation with a taxi driver alter your life’s journey?

 

Recently I was very privileged to have a conversation with what I can only describe as an amazing human “being” – a taxi driver.  He told me he was 80 and when asked why he wasn’t retired and taking life easy, he said his wife had died recently and he had nobody to talk to at home.  I though how sad and lonely that must be but he proceed to tell me that he took up taxi driving because he enjoyed chatting to customers.

He told me he had come through throat cancer, a heart attack, a stroke and recently had his knee replaced.  His friend introduced him to music and as a result he has been going to college, learning music for the last 3 years.  I told him he was amazing and asked what was his secret?  He replied “two things, attitude and altitude”.  I asked what he meant and was blown away when he said “It’s all down to how I look at things, my “attitude” and my love of sky diving or “altitude”.  His last sky dive was in February of this year!  He also uses Facebook!  Hands up anybody who would like to be this adventurous, tech savvy and active at 80 plus!

So can we broaden our horizons of understanding of life by studying our taxi driver?    How many widows or widowers are home alone and lonely?  How difficult must life be when a life-partner dies and leaves you all alone?  How many days might you go without talking to another adult?  What determination and resilience must it take to face up to this new stage of life?  If our mental and physical health allow, we can seek out social interaction and new challenges.  However, if our physical health restricts our movement, life’s horizons becomes limited.  Likewise if anxiety or depression are present, it might accelerate loneliness by resisting social interaction and increasing isolation.  Can we be proactive like this taxi driver?  How can we continue “being” when life as we knew it is no more?  Our taxi driver resisted isolation, he sought out social interaction – human company through his taxi business.  He engaged in new learning.  He maintained a positive attitude and took on new challenges in life and online.  And what can we do?  We can begin by questioning our attitude to life.  Are we on a roundabout, just going round and round?  In other words are we living without questioning our thoughts and behaviours?  Are we caught in ground-hog day, denying ourselves the opportunity to grow, to learn from our experiences.  We can take time out to consider ourselves, our family and our neighbours.  Let’s keep an eye out in our family and neighbourhood for somebody who might be a lonely and give a gentle check-in to ascertain how they’re coping.  Or how about visiting a local Nursing or Retirement Home. Maybe our visit could brighten somebody’s day and we might even be takenaback by how positive that makes us feel!

I wish you a day filled with happiness in your own company or in the company of others!

 

 

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Flashback Friday…Privilege.

When I look back on the past year or two of blogging and consider this particular post, PRIVILEGE…

I feel even more privileged than I did back then. I feel privileged because I’ve come to know myself better by sharing my thoughts and feelings.

I’ve gained some new and life changing perspectives from insightful comments received from you wonderful bloggers.

I feel really privileged because an unexamined life is like a broken circle or a half circle, you think there’s a piece missing.  I’m slowly realising that I am a full circle, I’m seeing that the pieces were there all along, just out of view!   I’m enjoying this process, this unique journey and I’m no longer worried about who I will become because I am, I already am!

Do you feel privileged?  What makes you feel privileged?  Has your view of privilege changed in the past year or two?

Much love,

Marie xx

Happy Birthday, Kunal — belatedbloomer

My dear son, As I sit and write this, my mind goes back to that night of 9th November 1964, when I was sitting on the wooden bench in the waiting room of Harkisondas Hospital, awaiting the arrival of my second child. I remember the lady doctor attending on your mother, coming and reassuring me and […]

via Happy Birthday, Kunal — belatedbloomer

This is an important reminder that whether spoken or written – our words are powerful!

This post is some very special! How much happier the world would be if more fathers & mothers could show their love for their children like this! A letter like this may be something of beauty now but its inherent power lies in the positive and enduring influence it contains. A beautiful share! And although not personally known to me, I enjoy the wisdom of this blogger and wish him and his son Kunal much happiness on this special day!

Have you ever thought about writing something like this?  Imagine the positivity you could create!

Much love,

Marie xx

Just one Minute Monday…Open!

 

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Open up your mind at every opportunity! Something’s right there in front of you waiting to be seen!

Flashback Friday…”Acceptance”, Love & Time.

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Thank you for joining me for some reflection time!  I hope we come to know each other a little better.

I wrote this post one morning as I really struggled to cope, to accept, to hope…ACCEPTANCE!

When I think back I can still recall how visceral my emotion was that morning.

With no avenues left to follow, we were forced to accept that the situation was outside of our control.  We had to sit back and develop patience.  We tried to listen with love, we spoke with love and we encouraged with love. We learned to trust, to hope and to let go control.  We let go our need to fix, our need for things to be as we thought they should be.

As I stop now and look back, it’s amazing how acceptance, love and time changed things!

Hardly eighteen months on, time has intervened…

With time, he re-tuned his body clock.  He began to re-engage with life.  His motivation to study slowly improved.  He spoke of sitting his exams. We quietly encouraged him to do what he thought was best for him… And it worked!

He took back power over his own life.  He regained his voice; the damage from bullying put behind him.  He decided how he wanted his future to look.  Having reaching his first mid-term of his first year of college we see… that acceptance, love and time... was the key.

It is the only key!

What challenges have really stretched your resilience?  What was the key to overcoming your challenge?

Much love,

Marie xx

Just One Minute Monday…Trust!

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Even the morning sun takes time to reach everything!

 

Just trust that the things you don’t reach on today are not necessarily vital things and that the people you don’t reach on today will understand and continue to appreciate you just as you are.

Much love,

Marie xx

Just One Minute Monday (6).

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Just look at how resilient you are, holding strong to the very last.   But don’t be afraid to let go…  Letting go also takes strength!

Much love,

Marie xx

My wish for you today…

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My wish for you today… is that you, like me, find the greatest adventures in the simple things, like having a car picnic or watching the wind scattering leaves like confetti, across your lawn!

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In what simple things do you find the greatest adventure?

Much love,

Marie xx

Friday Flashback…”Abstract Anxiety” Welcome old friends and new!

 

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I thought you might like to engage in a little bit of time travel today and maybe if you find it enjoyable you’ll travel back in time with me again next friday.

I’m sharing a link to a little piece of me before we came to know each other. I hope it will help us get to know each other a little better!

I think it would be fair to say that everybody experiences anxiety at some point in their life but there is a very big difference between healthy anxiety, which for example can spur us on before we face an exam, unlike severe anxiety disorder which can have life-limiting implications.

Having experienced both in my immediate family, I wondered what anxiety might look like through our five senses in this post, ABSTRACT ANXIETY

What does anxiety look like through your five senses?  Have you or someone you are close to experienced healthy anxiety or severe anxiety disorder?

Much love,

Marie xx

Friday Flashback…”OR” Welcome old friends and new!

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A Flashback…a simple ‘cowslip,’ reminds me of my happy childhood!

 

I know how precious my time is and I’m pretty sure you feel the same!  Although I love learning a little bit more about you everytime I read one of your posts, it is a challenge to read today’s posts let alone get around to checking out older posts.

I thought a link back to a little piece of me before we came to know each other might help us get to know each other a little better!

So how about a little bit of time travel again this Friday and maybe if you find it enjoyable you’ll travel back in time with me again next friday!

For today’s post I’ve chosen a short poem about choices, simply titled Or

What choices have you had to make recently?

Are you a ‘can’ or a ‘can’t?’

Please feel free to make another choice…add a link to your favourite post in the comment section, it will help me get to know you a little better!

Much love,

Marie xx

 

 

 

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