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Can a conversation with a taxi driver alter your life’s journey?

 

Recently I was very privileged to have a conversation with what I can only describe as an amazing human “being” – a taxi driver.  He told me he was 80 and when asked why he wasn’t retired and taking life easy, he said his wife had died recently and he had nobody to talk to at home.  I though how sad and lonely that must be but he proceed to tell me that he took up taxi driving because he enjoyed chatting to customers.

He told me he had come through throat cancer, a heart attack, a stroke and recently had his knee replaced.  His friend introduced him to music and as a result he has been going to college, learning music for the last 3 years.  I told him he was amazing and asked what was his secret?  He replied “two things, attitude and altitude”.  I asked what he meant and was blown away when he said “It’s all down to how I look at things, my “attitude” and my love of sky diving or “altitude”.  His last sky dive was in February of this year!  He also uses Facebook!  Hands up anybody who would like to be this adventurous, tech savvy and active at 80 plus!

So can we broaden our horizons of understanding of life by studying our taxi driver?    How many widows or widowers are home alone and lonely?  How difficult must life be when a life-partner dies and leaves you all alone?  How many days might you go without talking to another adult?  What determination and resilience must it take to face up to this new stage of life?  If our mental and physical health allow, we can seek out social interaction and new challenges.  However, if our physical health restricts our movement, life’s horizons becomes limited.  Likewise if anxiety or depression are present, it might accelerate loneliness by resisting social interaction and increasing isolation.  Can we be proactive like this taxi driver?  How can we continue “being” when life as we knew it is no more?  Our taxi driver resisted isolation, he sought out social interaction – human company through his taxi business.  He engaged in new learning.  He maintained a positive attitude and took on new challenges in life and online.  And what can we do?  We can begin by questioning our attitude to life.  Are we on a roundabout, just going round and round?  In other words are we living without questioning our thoughts and behaviours?  Are we caught in ground-hog day, denying ourselves the opportunity to grow, to learn from our experiences.  We can take time out to consider ourselves, our family and our neighbours.  Let’s keep an eye out in our family and neighbourhood for somebody who might be a lonely and give a gentle check-in to ascertain how they’re coping.  Or how about visiting a local Nursing or Retirement Home. Maybe our visit could brighten somebody’s day and we might even be takenaback by how positive that makes us feel!

I wish you a day filled with happiness in your own company or in the company of others!

 

 

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Why Fret?

Why Fret…?

F orget about worring or feeling blue
R ealign your perspective
E mbrace small positives, turn another leaf
T hrive as you are meant to!

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Just look and you’ll find the colour in every blue!

Much love,

Marie xx

Shur you have Spain at home!

When I was young and in a moaning mood (which was very rare!), my Nana would look gently at me and say “whist, don’t be complaining, shur you have Spain at home!”

 

Of course I wouldn’t be impressed as I knew that my self-pity was not going to be entertained!  But as I grew up, I knew Nana meant count your blessings, be grateful for what you have and appreciate every bit of it!  And she was so right!  I’m so thankful to have had the benefit of her shared wisdom by growing up in a three generational home.

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You can’t beat a blue sky!

 

I’m feeling very privileged to be enjoying a week in Spain, soaking up the splendid sunshine, (which can be sporadic in Ireland), getting time for the simple pleasures and realising that during the other 51 weeks of the year “shur I have Spain at home.”

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It’s all about the simple things!

 

 

 

“Shur what’s your Spain at home?”

Much love,

Marie xx

The Translation — Stories I’ve Never Told…

I was having a hard time. I was down in the dumps, stuck in a slump. Things weren’t going quite the way I’d planned in my life. I was going through a move, a break up, loss of a friend and heart ache. My emotions were high, my mood was low and stress inescapable. I […]

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We all need to know and hear, even if it’s only in some small way, that we make a difference! Lovely share from Alexis and one that also reminds me of how important it is to be generous with our positive feedback to others.

Just one minute Monday…

Today I’m spending the day relaxing on Inch Beach in the beautiful County Kerry. Inch is just one of many amazing spaces along the Wild Atlantic Way.  You can check it out here…

https://www.discoverireland.ie/Arts-Culture-Heritage/inch-strand/91730

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5km of beautiful beach…Inch Beach, County Kerry.

 

Today is a public holiday, part of the June Bank Holiday and we have fantastic temperatures between 22 and 25 degrees.  You can check out Met Eireann here…

https://www.met.ie/forecasts/munster

And in the middle of all this beauty and relaxation I’m taking one minute to be really grateful and mindful of this beautiful weather.  It has been a long winter and a sunny day lifts everybody’s spirit!  It’s heart-warming to hear conversations and laughter blowing on the breeze and to see families spending time together, outdoors, soaking up the sun, building sand castles and swimming or surfing in the sea.  It also brings back many fond memories of holidays spent on the beach with our two children when they were young.

What might your Just one minute Monday be?

Much love,

Marie xx

 

 

Keep trying… Disconnect…reconnect Sunday.

I find it hard to believe that it’s been three months since I published this post,

Disconnect…reconnect Sunday

In that post I tried to set myself a goal of taking time away from technology on Sundays.  I have to admit that it hasn’t been easy!  I’ve had some successful Sundays and some not so successful ones!  But that’s ok because in my world, it’s about the sustained effort, not the outcome.  I keep trying and that’s the main thing!

I’m popping my phone aside again today and I’m going to make rhubarb and apple tart for my extended family.

Then I’m off to The Clancy Festival, read a little about it here https://clancybrothersfestival.com/

I’m going to connect face to face, in real-time, with like-minded writers and artists in

Art with Voices, check it out here,
https://clancybrothersfestivalarttrail.wordpress.com/installations/art-with-voices/

Don’t worry, I’ll fill you in…

Ps…the tarts are made (vegan & non-vegan).

Much love,

Marie xx

10 Lesser-Known Symptoms of Fibromyalgia I Experience

Welcome to the world of Fibro/Fatigue. If you’d like to understand Fibro a little better please read this excellent post by My Fitness Journey, I have to add heart palpatations, GORD, restless legs and spasticity to the list.

But just like My Fitness Journey, I have found that having a positive attitude is life changing. I would also add; connecting with others, knowing I have a voice to contribute, knowing my voice matters and having the courage to speak up for myself and others.

What makes a difference to the quality of your life?

My Fitness Journey

A new piece on The Mighty

https://themighty.com/2018/05/fibromyalgia-symptoms-less-known/

There are a lot of people who haven’t heard of fibromyalgia and those who have don’t always fully understand it; there are even those who think it isn’t real. A lot of people who are aware and do try to understand it make the mistake of thinking it’s all about pain. Although chronic pain is one of the main symptoms, there are many others that are less widely known, and symptoms can range greatly from person to person. Some of my symptoms include the following:

1. Fibro fog

Having fibro fog makes it hard to think clearly, it can make it hard to follow conversations and to formulate what you would like to say. It can be struggling to explain what you mean, finding it hard to comprehend what you would normally find easy to understand, and being unable to find the words among many other things.

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How to Spot an Emotional Bully — MakeItUltra™

Bullying is a topic close to my heart because both my children experienced bullying.

This informative post makes for excellent reading and maybe even for some self-reflection!

Learn to spot the behaviours emotional bullies employ.  Armed with knowledge and awareness of how others and… dare we admit it… even how we ourselves behave, then we are empowered to bring about positive change in our lives!

Much love,

Marie xx

 

By Dr. Perry, PhD “Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me.” ~Anonymous I wish the above quote was true. Unless we are a machine or lack human emotions, words and actions have a profound effect on the way we feel about ourselves and the world around us. In our current society, […]

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Just One Minute Monday!

I’ve decided to take just one minute of quiet time. Just one minute to pause. It’s been a busy day and my energy reserve is low.

I’m going to look around me and be grateful for where I am and what I see. I’m going to be grateful for what I managed to achieve today even if it wasn’t what I had hoped to achieve.

I might focus my thoughts on somebody I love or somebody I haven’t been in contact with in a while. I might think of you, my blogging friends. I might think of a deceased loved one. Or maybe I’ll focus on a favourite quote or recite a mantra.

The 60 seconds will provide time for a little quiet space within a busy day.  I’d love you to take just one minute with me today.  Maybe we can make “Just One Minute Monday” a regular weekly habit.

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Paws (pause) because you can!

What do you do to take just one minute of quiet time?

Much love,

Marie xx

 

Remember to Forget…

Remembering to forget is probably one of the best gifts you can give yourself.

Whether it is that you need to…

Forget that they weren’t there for you,

Forget that they didn’t understand,

Forget that the system failed you,

Forget that they told you that you needed to be more resilient,

Or

Forget that they didn’t think before they spoke unhelpful words…

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Emma’s little piece of handiwork, a new-found talent. Being lost in flow is a great way to forget about having to remember to forget!

 

Just know that you were good enough as you were and that likewise it was also the best they had to give at that time.

Accept the situation as it was and look deep inside to adapt and improve yourself.  Don’t live on your expectations of them…

Enhance your now…remember to forget.

Just forget!

Much love,

Marie xx

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